Today people are gradually getting addicted to sex.Cinema,media encourage it.You have 5 year olds watching porn movies.9 year old children getting pregnant.Youth have become accustomed to using sexually explicit foul language.Elderly people as well as the youth have started visiting prostitutes.There is an increase in extra marital affairs.Rapes are becoming common.5-10 year olds have started masturbating.
The causes are not difficult to find.
1. In schools there is no training and proper knowledge related to sex.Modern Sex education from the western world encourages promiscous behavior.They tell you the biological information but don't build strong character.
2. With cinemas,Internet reaching every household porn material is increasingly accessible.Young school children discuss sex in their free time in schools.So they know about it at an early age.
Today almost all people have started asking why should we stay away from sex.Why should we not enjoy?What is so bad in that?We must have free sex just like in the western countries etc.
So what are the bad effects of sex?I would quote Swami Vivekananda-
Ojas is a Sanskrit word which literally means "vigor". According to the principles of Ayurveda, it is the essential energy of the body which can be equated with the "fluid of life". Those who practice Ayurveda say that Ojas is the sap of one's life energy which, when sufficient, is equated with immunity and, when deficient, results in weakness, fatigue and ultimately disease.
"Part of the human energy which is expressed as sex energy, in sexual thought, when checked and controlled, easily becomes changed into Ojas.It is only the chaste man or woman who can make the Ojas rise and store it in the brain; that is why chastity has always been considered the highest virtue.The "Ojas" is that which makes the difference between man and man. The man who has much Ojas is the leader of men. It gives a tremendous power of attraction. Ojas is manufactured from the nerve - currents. It has this peculiarity: it is most easily made from that force which manifests itself in the sexual powers. If the powers of the sexual centres are not frittered away and their energies wasted (action is only thought in a grosser state), they can be manufactured into Ojas."
Dissipation of creative energy is weakening and a cause of disease and premature old age- Paramahansa Yogananda
By observance of unbroken Brahmacharya in thought, word and deed for a period of full twelve years, one is bestowed even with the vision of God, if one aspires for it. He can solve the most abstruse and complicated problems easily.
Know that in this world there is nothing that cannot be attained by one who remains from birth to death a perfect celibate... In one person, knowledge of the four Vedas, and in another,perfect celibacy - of these, the latter is superior to the former who is wanting in celibacy. - The Mahabharata
To the celibate who conserves the semen with great efforts, what is there unattainable in this world? By the power of the composure of the semen, one will become just like myself. - Lord Sankara
So what is to be done to those sex desires?The first thing is avoiding impure thoughts.Next the answer Rishis say is sex sublimation exercises.Following are some of the exercises;
--Using the energy in sports and strenous physical exercise.
--Transmuting the creative energy by engaging the mind in creative work(artistic, business etc) whichever is most interesting.This leads to tremendous success in work as stated by Napolean Hill in his book 'Think and grow rich"
--Deep Inhalation and Exhalation.Pranayama will also help.
--Practice of Yoga asanas like Siddhasana,Padangushthasana,Sarvangasana,Maha mudra etc.Link to these exercises can be found here--> www.frankreport.com/Manmaking/Chastity/HathaYoga.ht ml
--Another Yogic exercise-Draw a deep breath,simultaneously pull the energy from the genitals from the coccyx upward through the spine to the point between eye brows.Absorb the energy there.Exhale and imagine freeing yourself from the bad instincts.
These exercises are good for both males and females.
Unmarried people can practise these exercises and attract the right marriage partner as per the laws of personal magnetism.Dissipation will attract wrong ones.
Married people can practise moderation using these exercises and gradually get over this instinct.It is helpful for good health and spiritual advancement.
During pregnancy if thoughts of both father and mother are pure, great souls are born.