Girl child and a tough terrain called life!

कभी कभी लगता है
लड़की बनकर पैदा होना कितना मुश्किल काम है

बचपन से देखें तो समाज का डर
हर तरह के लोग यहाँ हैं

सुना है हिंदोस्ताँ में बच्चों की बड़ी संख्या
चाइल्ड अब्यूस से गुज़रती है
उनमें भी मेरे ख्याल में ज़्यादा ख़तरा Girl Child के लिए हैं

वैसे तो लाखों लड़कियों पर Feticide का हमला हो चुका होता है
जो बच जाती हैं उन पर बचपन में ही Child Abuse का ख़तरा बना रहता है

Data बताता है ये हाल कमज़ोर वर्ग में नही, Posh Localities का है.

वक़्त से आओ वक़्त से जाओ, लड़कियों के लिए यह कोर्स बेहतर है वो बेहतर है

अगर कहीं पब्लिक ट्रांसपोर्ट use किया तो मौका परस्त वहशी

अगर वहाँ बचे तो कॉलेज में, दफ़्तर में घर में ही अपनी Muscular Power से डराने वाले भाई

और फिर भगवान ने भी कुछ Chemistry ऐसी बिठाई की हर मास उर्जा का हनन

अगर लड़की चालक ना हो तो अक्सर Romantic Relationships में भी घाटे का सौदा ही रहता है
लड़की के लिए, (लड़की अगर कूटनीति जानती हो  तो सत्ता पे बैठने वाले भी उसकी इजाज़त ले ऐसी
ताक़त ज़रूर है लड़कियो के पास)

खैर ये सब झेलने के बाद पति कैसा मिलेगा, ये बहुत बड़ा सवालिया निशान है
जैसी male dominant upbringing है बच्चों की, सही लड़के मिलना सबसे कठिन कामों में से है

फिर भी बेचारे उर्जा हीन लड़के मिल ही जाते हैं, उनमें बोलने की उर्जा नहीं वो लड़ भी नहीं सकते
इस तरह के लड़के बहुत demand में रहते हैं....गाय टाइप जो अच्छे दुधारू हों, पर सीँघ ना हो

I am sure भगत सिंग जैसे को तो कोई अपनी लड़की ना देता |

खैर शादी हो गयी, अब लड़के की दादा गिरी शुरू हो गयी, लड़के को पुरानी training है
चलो लड़के की ना हुई, सास से तो बच ना पाओगे

सास के हाथ तो अब मौका लगा है वो सब करने का जो उसने झेला है अपनी सास से
तो एक नये बॉस का अवतार होता है
घरवाले  इसलिए जल्दी आने को कहते थे की बाहर सेफ नहीं
सास इसलिए जल्दी आने को कहती है की घूमना allowed नहीं

अब भी लड़की घड़ी से चल रही है, अब भी नियम हैं, ज़्यादा सख़्त


वो क्या है ना की इंसान की प्रकृति ही ऐसी है, ताक़त मिले तो वह उपयोग ज़रूर करता है
सदुपयोग जितने काबिल तो हम नहीं, इसलिए ताक़त का हमेशा दुरुपयोग होता है

और ऐसा नहीं के ये लड़की एक अच्छी सास बनेगी , वहीं बनेगी जो training हो रही है

क्यूंकी सास भी कभी बहू थी का असली मायाना यह है
वो नहीं जो #SmiritiIrani दुनिया को दिखा के गयी

सही समाज बहुत पीछे है |

The Art of Living Organisation - My first hand experience

Hello All, May the divinity reside in us and we are able to find the ultimate truth - Chareveti Chareveti!

I had a chance to go to Bangalore ashram of AOL some 2 years ago, i wanted to pen down my experience at that time but some how i didn't.

Today it i feel like writing to create awareness to help seekers if at all am any useful.

As assertive AOL teachers are one of my friends who happens to be a teacher asked me to go to Bangalore Ashram for advanced course. I did go. I had reservation for dormitory as rooms were filled.

As i reached there people welcome "Welcome home' but within minutes people who had come for dormitory could see a differential treatment in terms of cards offered and place of registration.

All around the campus i didn't notice any other god's photo just the Sri Sri, big posters across the campuses, to my surprise such mass marketing.

in advanced course you are supposed to be on silence, but in the evening singing bhajans were allowed perhaps to maintain some entertainment whereas truth as per Jiddu Krishnamurthy is a serious matter, its not a matter of entertainment. Silence is maintained to create peaceful energy within the body to help meditations, but i never experienced that calm energy due to noise in the evening.

Dormitories were full of people you could just somehow pass the night. although they were cleanly maintained but number of people was more than necessary.

inside the campus there were clothes (of not very fine quality) neither were those any concessional. they had good price tag. Even the books published under Art of Living label are costlier than necessary see that for yourself.

while Sri Sri talked from stage his associated would come up and talk about the products like shampoos and creams on offer this was funny. They talked about their new colleges for MBA etc
asking people to refer friends, no body uttered anything for children who are needy if there was any social responsibility carried out by those colleges in education?

Once i left my wallet at the dormetory, i told the person at tea stall within the campus that i don't carry wallet to pay for tea, i couldn't believe that lady denied me giving a cup of tea without money and she seems 'educated' and English speaking woman! serving people in their 'Welcome Home'
and must be a follower of sri sri himself.


The food stalls inside charged good price for anything you like to eat i mean a common man has the only option to eat at the kitchen, which was included in the advance course fee.


During the session the teacher's would ask in the middle who has done this course that course , would appeal people to register for different courses, i mean what the heck!

a lot of time i spent sleeping am unsure if that was the food that i was eating in kitchen or what.

They would keep propagating the collective meditation has benefits and all that, though Jiddu Krishnamurthy has stated you cant meditate collectively, the path to truth is walked alone, meditation is done alone in silence.

Look at the photos of all these guru's very well photoshopped, in persone hardly any of them is as good looking;)

All this gurudom propaganda is only making people slave and dependent on somebody else to help the search of truth...this will never help the search of truth, yes it does certanly help you to get acquainted with indian origin culture which itslef is great like a people tree, all these guru's are only en cashing bits and pieces of a great culture

Why not somebody makes audit of their income and make them pay the taxes!

How Earplugs boost Awareness

"Then one day, upon arising into the quiet post-shouting hour, I left the earplugs in. I went about my morning in the apartment and then ventured outside with the earplugs still in my ears. I could hear people speaking, I could hear sounds, but it all took place at a remove. And yet I did not feel farther away from everything. I moved through the streets as though in a dream, but, as with a dream, somehow more attentive and aware than usual. Up to that point the purpose of earplugs was to keep things out. Now I perceived a new dimension to earplugs—to keep things in.

What things? Thoughts, I guess. Ideas. Equilibrium. Concentrating was easier, and I began to leave the earplugs in to write. Errands in the city, or when I had to take the subway, were much more pleasant at a slight sonic remove. It's like listening to music on an iPod, but instead of filling your head with sound, you fill it with your thoughts and your own breath. ...."

"Such a small, mundane little object, but what an effect on a day! How, I wondered, did earplugs come into existence?"

More on :
http://www.slate.com/articles/health_and_science/medical_examiner/2007/03/breathing_lessons.html

Falling hair - An Unheard of sure shot solution from Dr Rajiv Dixit

Hi Friends,

Many of us these days face issues with Falling hair, due to our lifestyle and Pollution. Thankfully I have been able to save myself from this. While I have learnt that it mostly happens because of body heat or acidic nature that we turn our body into by over drinking tea coffee and smilar acidic things.

Better life style would be - use of coconut and its water, and also more of tap water to keep body temperature normal during the day. Amla is of also great help.

But besides those well known measure i learnt of a very specific remedy for falling hair or baldness patterns from very renowned Late Dr Rajiv Dixit. An exemplary person for his grasp over subjects related to health and many more.

Here is the sure shot remedy (something i am talking of my personal experience)

You have to use Morning Saliva (which is assumed to be of tremendous use for the body, not something to be thrown out with morning gargle or brush)

When you sleep at nigh, wash your mouth and when you wake up use morning saliva to put on the root of hair which you think are getting weak, and as per him it may be put on bald areas to see hair growing in a fortnight or so.

It definitely worked for me for areas that i though were having less hair growth. Try this out, revert me for any more questions on this and also for the feedback, keep spreading the word and goodness in all possible ways, Yes this was the moto of Late Sh Dr Rajiv Dixit, refer to Youtube videos for more from Dr Dixit.

Loka Saamasta Sukhina Bhawantu.

Contribute to other's success stories | share your experiences with others

“If you breathe oxygen you have the responsibility to be a leader!! “

If you breathe oxygen you hold responsibility to upgrade everybody around you to be the better him.

We deliberately hold back growth of people that surround us because of our own insecurities, we want to be the sole winner, we don’t like to see winners around us. The scenario very much exists between friends, between boss and subordinates, between cousins and unfortunately sometimes between father and son.

We constantly keep creating mental boundaries in the minds of people for the same very reason of our own insecurities about lagging behind in the longer run if we guide this person today.

Harsh but a naked Truth!

An ideal person who is optimistic who is secure who is in harmony with himself would take the responsibility of providing the right direction, responsibility of guiding someone to the right track.

And anyway after you are gone you’ll not be remembered by how much you left, you’ll be remembered by how much you gave!

The best thing any one can give is right guidance and in Swami Vivekanand’s words spiritual guidance.

So my dear brothers wake up, stand up to the responsibilities, provide to the world all your experiences as a naked truth, Don’t Hold back! It will wither inside your mind, sharing will only nourish it further…

And please share the post, we want a society that cares and shares!

Life's worthyness - Yes'es and the No's

Is it worth living ? A question  that occurred to me the other day while sitting idle. What if there was an escape route from this world, it came to me yes i will be very happy to grab that, i felt very ready to go to the world unknown, anything but not this the world i am living in.

All these sort of hopeless thoughts wandered my mind when there's nothing fundamentally wrong in my life, I am educated, intelligent (as others call), i find myself capable, i have good number of people who like my company, ppl of both sexes, i had a wonderful girl friend, my job pays well.

But i have the feeling that life is not worth living, crisis what it is generally called. I have seen an office life coach, she suggested some measures, find the conversation useful within limits. Nothing core had been addressed.

It was a serious question, when somebody is not intersted in living, I would say its the boredom, absence of exciting endeavors that probably is causing. Seems I have not been able to get enough peace , my space, seems i crave for lot of space for myslef. feels my space is envroached by the society inclusive of Parents and ofcourse the bullshit corporate world we have built.

So saying No to present life, is something that needs lot of pondering and urgent corrective actions. There on I have built a habit of keeping this check every now and then, This Life? Yes / No. A lot of times however the answer is coming No. But there is a silver lining here...

I was sitting at the roof of my house, place i frequently visit, and it was an awesome weather, awesome breeze....that breeze when it scratched with my face, body....Yes! came upon. that moment i was finding Life worthwhile....it was helping search of the answers about worthiness of life...

Next day i took an off from office to see mom of a very close friend going through tough times, who's a very thoughful person himself....sure he would also say No to the life if asked this question...and i do know there will be a big ration ...more that half the world's population who would say No to the present life....it only heightens the Seriusness of the question....what society have we buit up, we are building up...Life's purpose is happiness....what are we all busy doing shit stuff compromising the happiness??

As a general principle if means are too time taking and complicated you sure will loose the focus of the ends, this exactly seems to be the scenario with the world...while we have rising number of so called "qualified " people...intelligence is getting lost!....an intelligent world by no means can appear like this....Pollution, Traffic Jams, Noice, Violence, Rat Race, 9am-5pm Jails...all that crap....

Got carried away...anyways my idea now is to collect more of Yes moments...moments that make it worth living....i should soon have along holiday...long ravel, learn swimming, teat myself to the limits....reach point where life is a residual of only Yes'es by conscious choice....would need almighty's blessing for the same, i do believe in you i believe you are in me....show me the way!!

Once you tell the universe your exact specification, thats how it responds, the image that i just found for my write up:

Very right Cambell.

Silence of the Body | Of the Mind | Of the Heart | and "Turiya" the fourth!

Sixth Sense :
That sixth sense, in the East, is called “the third eye.” It looks inwards. And just as there is a way of looking in, so there is a way of hearing in, so there is a way of smelling in. Just as there are five senses moving outward, there are five counter-senses moving inward. In all, man has ten senses, but the first sense that starts the inner journey is the third eye, and then other senses start opening up.

Where Mind cannot Reach :
Your inner world has its own taste, has its own fragrance, has its own light. And it is utterly silent, immensely silent, eternally silent. There has never been any noise, and there will never be any noise. No word can reach there, but you can reach. The mind cannot reach there, but you can reach because you are not the mind. The function of the mind is again to be a bridge between you and the objective world, and the function of the heart is to be a bridge between you and yourself.

Silence of the heart:
The silence that I have been talking about is the silence of the heart. It is a song in itself, without words and without sounds. It is only out of this silence that the flowers of love grow. It is this silence that becomes the Garden of Eden. Meditation, and only meditation, is the key to open the doors of your own being.
You are asking, “A while ago you said something about silence which startled me in my sleepiness. I had simply thought of it as just an absence—an absence of noises. But you were saying it had positive qualities, a positive sound. And in my meditations, I have noticed a distinction between a silence in my body and a silence in my mind.”

Your experiences are true. The body knows its own silence—that is its own well-being, its own overflowing health, its own joy. The mind also knows its silence, when all thoughts disappear and the sky is without any clouds, just a pure space. But the silence I am talking about is far deeper.
I am talking about the silence of your being.

These silences that you are talking about can be disturbed. Sickness can disturb the silence of your body, and death is certainly going to disturb it. A single thought can disturb the silence of your mind, the way a small pebble thrown into the silent lake is enough to create thousands of ripples, and the lake is no longer silent. The silence of the body and the mind are very fragile and very superficial, but in themselves they are good. To experience them is helpful, because it indicates that there may be even deeper silences of the heart.
And the day you experience the silence of the heart, it will be again an arrow of longing, moving you even deeper.

Your very center of being is the center of a cyclone. Whatever happens around it does not affect it; it is eternal silence. Days come and go, years come and go, ages come and pass, lives come and go, but the eternal silence of your being remains exactly the same – the same soundless music, the same fragrance of godliness, the same transcendence from all that is mortal, from all that is momentary.
It is not your silence.

You are it.

Even your presence will be a disturbance:
 
It is not something in your possession; you are possessed by it, and that’s the greatness of it. Even you are not there, because even your presence will be a disturbance. The silence is so profound that there is nobody, not even you. And this silence brings truth, and love, and thousands of other blessings to you. This is the search, this is the longing of all the hearts, of all those who have a little intelligence.

But remember, don’t get lost in the silence of the body, or the silence of the mind, or even the silence of the heart. Beyond these three is the fourth. We, in the East, have called it simply “the fourth,” turiya. We have not given it any name. Instead of a name we have given it a number, because it comes after three silences — of the body, of the mind, of the heart—and beyond it, there is nothing else to be found.
So, don’t misunderstand. Most of the people… for example, there are people who are practicing yoga exercises. Yoga exercises give a silence of the body, and they are stuck there. Their whole life, they practice, but they know only the most superficial silence. Then there are people who are doing concentrations like transcendental meditation, of Maharishi Mahesh Yogi. It can give you a silence which will be only of the mind. Just by repeating a name or a mantra… the very repetition creates in its wake, a silence in the mind. But it is not meditation, and it is not transcendental.

And there are Sufis who know the third, which is the deepest of the three. But still it is not the goal, the target; your arrow is still falling short. It is very deep because Sufis know the heart more than anybody else. For centuries they have been working on the heart, just as yogis have been working on the body, and people of concentration and contemplation have been working on the mind.

The Sufis know the immense beauty of love. They radiate love, but still the home has not been reached. You have to remember the fourth. Unless you reach the fourth, continue the journey.

People misunderstand very easily. Just a little bit of experience and they think they have arrived. And mind is very clever to rationalize.

There is a Sufi story about Mulla Nasruddin. The Mulla hears a commotion in the street outside his house in the middle of the night. His wife tells him to go down, and after many arguments he puts a blanket on his shoulders and goes down to the street. There were many people in the street and a lot of noise, and in the crowd somebody steals his blanket.

The Mulla goes home naked, and his wife asks him, “What was that all about?” The Mulla says, “It seems to be about my blanket, because as they got the blanket they all disappeared. They were just waiting for the blanket. And I was telling you `Don’t force me to go there.’ Now I have lost my blanket and I have come naked. It was none of our business.”

He has found a rationalization, and it looks logical, that as they got his blanket they all disappeared. And the poor Mulla thinking that perhaps that was the whole problem….
“Their argument and their noise just in front of my house in the middle of the night, and my foolish wife persuaded me finally to lose my blanket!”

Mind is continuously rationalizing, and sometimes it may appear that what it is saying is right, because it gives arguments for it. But one has to beware of one’s own mind, because in this world nobody can cheat you more than your own mind. Your greatest enemy is within you, just as your greatest friend is also within you.
The greatest enemy is just your first encounter, and your greatest friend is going to be your last encounter–so don’t be prevented by any experience of the body or the mind or the heart. Remember always one of the famous statements of Gautam Buddha. He used to conclude his sermons every day with the same two words, charaiveti, charaiveti.” Those two simple words—just one word repeated twice—means “Don’t stop; go on, go on.”
Never stop until the road ends, until there is nowhere else to go—charaiveti, charaiveti.
-Osho

 Article Source: http://o-meditation.com/2011/03/01/charaiveti-charaiveti-osho/